For now, this is my last chubbyevolution.com blog post. I am not quitting my journey, I am just packing up and moving to Facebook and Instagram for now. Chubbyevolution.com and all the posts will still be here, but all new content will be at the Chubby Evolution Facebook Page and @chubbyevolution on Instagram. I would love to have you join the communities there!
I want to create a Chubby Evolution community of people who come together to share their journey while I am still at the beginning of my own. I am spread out over too many platforms and it is starting to distract from the time I spend in other parts of my life.
So, for now, it is time to say goodbye to the blog – but not goodbye to writing about my journey. You will still see blog style posts on my Facebook page. So like and follow me on Facebook and Instagram and we can still continue to build this community!
With love and gratitude,
Fat people have a love/hate relationship with chairs. At least I have over the years. I love to sit down in them and often I have needed to. I hate worrying about them. These are all of the things I have been known to worry about related to chairs:
- Will it hold me? Flimsy folding chairs are the devil.
- Will I fit between the arms?
- My husband needs to hold the drinks at the movies until I sit in the chair at the movies so I don’t smash the sodas. And even then, will I sit comfortably?
- I need an aisle seat in any auditorium so only one person has to share the space that should be their seat with me.
- Oh, and will I fit in the seat in the auditorium? I almost didn’t at my sister-in-law’s wedding.
- I have to buy two tickets to travel on an airplane. And once, I had to be concerned that when they were moving the seat assignments that me and my ass wouldn’t be seated together.
You ask me why I am on on this journey? Because someday, I will be able to look at a chair or seat and think “oh, look, a place to sit.”
What is the nemesis you are trying to overcome on your journey?
I have sat through no less that 20 commencement addresses in my adult life. As a Community College staff member, I attend our graduation ceremony every year. And every year I wonder if it will be something memorable to thrill and inspire, and nearly every year I am disappointed. If you are reading this and have given a commencement address I have endured, sorry. But, you could have been one of the ones I remember! I just don’t want to single anyone out by saying so…
Anyway, there is a point is saying this. I have always sat in those seats and thought that I wanted to be the one up there giving the commencement address. I work with these students day in and day out and I see a small part of the struggle they overcome to earn the right to sit in those seats and endure that address. I want to motivate and inspire them. I want to congratulate and encourage them. I want to look out into the audience and say to their friends and family members that I know “someone in this auditorium wants to be sitting in these seats as a graduate and YOU CAN DO IT.” All of the graduates have proven that if you want a goal badly enough, you can make the sacrifices to get there.
But then on the way home this year, I realized, that other than work at the the college for 17 years, I haven’t done anything worthy of delivering a commencement address. Who I am I? What have I done? How can I inspire someone?
I have had this same thought many times as I encourage students to overcome their obstacles and reach their goals. I then realize what a hypocrite I am. I have this weight struggle that I have been dealing with across the desk from them for years and have not, up until this point, made the sacrifice, set the goals, and had the determination to stick with it to get this weight off.
So I have decided that I will someday be worthy of the invitation to give a commencement address. I will have a before and after of at least 200 pounds difference to show that setting goals, finding your why, and building your support team can help you accomplish anything you set your mind to.
If you are reading this and are on the graduation committee, I will be looking forward to my invitation to speak in 2020!
What dreams are you working to make come true?
“Once you get ‘it’, you have to give it away to keep it. It’s a gift” – FatDag’s friend regarding recovery from addiction (posted on WW Connect).
I have been listening to so many books lately to feed my my mind and keep me motivated and everything seems to fall into place and I find what I need when I need it. I started a couple of weeks ago with a book called “The Life Changing Magic of not giving a Fuck” by Sarah Knight, Wow oh wow was there freedom in that book for me. Finally permission to stop giving a fuck about every little thing. I have been slowly removing guilt from my life and this book was the swift kick in the ass that I needed. I realized that like Sarah says, I really do have a Fuck Budget and I can only give so many fucks and then I am all out, so I have to choose what I spend them on. This book is one I highly recommend. She discusses how not to be an asshole while being direct about what you will no longer be giving your fucks to.
I followed up with her book called “Get your Shit Together.” It is quite a nice sequel to the first and also was exactly what I needed. While I haven’t done all the exercises in this book, it inspired me to tackle the mess that is our family financial situation. Apparently if you avoid looking at the checking account regularly, it doesn’t magically grow. Who knew?
And now, I discovered Mel Robbins on YouTube and just started her book “Stop Saying You’re Fine” and while I am not far into it, it has begun to inspire me to start making some of my dreams a reality.
My dream is to have weight loss success, and someday help people who have struggled with their weight all their lives like I have. I want to encourage and inspire them. I want them to realize, like I have started to, that it isn’t just about getting the weight off. It is about gaining the mental and physical freedom that comes with not being weighed down by the pounds, the guilt, and the disappointment that comes with a lifetime of failed attempts at weight loss. There is freedom on the other side and I want people to experience that.
I was starting to doubt my dream and wonder in the sea of voices discussing weight loss how I could be unique or different or even add anything to the conversation. But I have decided after the FatDag quote above that I am not going to worry about any of that. I have been given a gift and if I don’t give it away, I will lose it.
I am committing to waking up everyday and finding a way to give that gift away.
What gift have you been given? What dream have you been sitting on? What are you allowing fear to stop you from doing?
What I am feeding myself on this journey is not just about the physical. It is also about the mental. From humor to inspiration to practical advice and suggestions, I am on a constant diet of motivation. The good news is, motivation doesn’t cost points, calories, carbs or macros. No matter what you are counting, motivation can be a part of your daily intake.
My favorite Zig Ziglar quote is, “They say motivation doesn’t last, but neither does bathing, that’s why they recommend it daily.” This constant daily diet of motivation is what it takes to counteract all of the things in our environment that can pull us away from our goals. From those damn TV commercials for the big burgers or the amazing ice cream to the people who “kindly” bring cupcakes and donuts to work, challenges surround us.
My daily motivation comes from many sources: Instagram, Weight Watchers connect, My WW buddy/bestie, friends, and family, podcasts, and Facebook. Any time I want to turn to food, I have been turning to technology or someone in my life I trust. Motivation and support is just a click away in many cases. Use all of your resources! I have set up a pinterest board called “Wisdom” for the motivating quotes I like – check it out!
How do you bathe daily in motivation?
I love TED Talks. I love that they are short and on a variety of topics. So for the next few Tuesdays I will be showcasing a different TED talk and discuss how I will be incorporating it into my journey.
This week’s TED talk is by Carrie Green and is entitled “Programming Your Mind for Success.” She discusses the extreme importance of mindset on your road to better health. By describing a series of experiments she an her colleagues preformed with hotel housekeepers, factory workers, and university students drinking milkshakes, she was able to show how one small tweak in the way we think of things has a huge impact on the outcome.
The hotel housekeepers for instance, by the nature of their jobs, get a significant amount of exercise each day. But when they were asked if the exercise, most of them said no because they don’t intentionally exercise. By very simply showing one group of housekeepers a poster that showed how many calories they were burning with each cleaning task they did, that group had statistically significantly better health when the researchers returned. Their weight and blood pressure was down – and they did not report adding any extra exercise.
So all of this made me wonder if the mindset we have during our weight loss journey by default has the potential to impact our weight loss one way or the other. If we go in worrying that this will be another time to fail is it inevitable that we will fail. If we go in with a mindset set on success and feed that positive mindset regularly, are we more likely to succeed? I’m going to take a guess and say YES.
So what is your mindset? Are you convinced you are going to be successful?
Weight loss is hard work, sacrifice, and struggle. But one thing I have learned is that it can’t be 100% serious. I know I have to take time to laugh and find joy in the journey. I have friends I laugh with and I always chuckle to myself when I see diet memes online. Today I am going to share a couple of my favorites because I can relate to each one of them!
Weight loss doesn’t happen fast – but often, this is how I feel!
When I am trying to decide what Weight Loss plan to use…
Whole Foods are the best!
This one is sooooo true…
And finally (some profanity included) but it makes me laugh!
Find a way to laugh today!